My partner has just admitted to having FIVE children he never told me about – and I never want the three kids we share to see him again
Every relationship has its setbacks, but it’s not often your partner lies about his secret estranged family.
One British woman took to Mumsnet to give her opinion on her 51-year-old partner’s lying antics after he admitted he has a family of five back in Denmark, despite previously telling her he was too busy at work to have a big family.
A woman who is 18 weeks pregnant with her third child said her partner told her that before he met her he always wanted a big family but couldn’t do it becausework has been so busy.”
In her post, she asked if she was wrong to hide her own children from him, after a shocking conversation that shook her to the core.
Users immediately came to her defense, expressing fears that he might in fact still be married to another woman.
One British woman took to Mumsnet to vent about her 51-year-old partner’s lying antics after he admitted he has a family of five in Denmark, despite previously telling her he was too busy at work to have a big family. )
The poster, 18 weeks pregnant with her third child, said her partner had previously claimed that “he always wanted a big family and never had children as work was so busy”, but he had just admitted otherwise during the conversation.
The anonymous woman began her post: “I’m so angry I don’t even know what to do!” Tonight he sat me down and said he had to confess, right, okay? HE HAS 5 CHILDREN.”
She explained that her partner is from Malta and moved to London six years ago after spending most of his life in Norway and Denmark, and that she has two children with him.
“Yes, that’s right – he has five children in Denmark aged 24, 22, 21, 20 and 18. Apparently the 4 eldest are in London this weekend and want to see him for the first time in 6 years!!!!! WHAT.
“I’m so angry. I’ve never met his family, claims he’s an only child (who knows) and his parents are dead (aren’t they?).”
The woman was told that her partner did keep in touch with their children, but they had gone abroad for work or university.
He was to meet them all during their visit to the British capital. The shocked and devastated woman kicked her partner out of their shared home and into a hotel.
She explained that she didn’t want him around their own children for fear that he would also abandon them for six years.
Reaction: Mumsnet users console anonymous woman over her shocking situation
Luckily, the woman is not stuck with him due to financial reasons as she has her own source of income, but she found out that his secret family is receiving money from him.
In a desperate plea, she asked, “What should I do now?” We can’t recover from this, right? Is he psychotic? Can I protect my children from him or do I just hope he flies off somewhere else and leaves us with this??!
“AIBU (I am unreasonable) to feel like the world has just collapsed in on itself and wonder what the hell is wrong with it!? Why would he lie?!!’
One user advised her to consider hiring a private detective, but added: “Dating a financially secure man who has children, especially teenagers and young adults living in different countries, will not be an obstacle for many women.” ‘.
She continued: “I don’t see any reason why he never mentioned it? This is absolutely crazy! I would definitely start the separation and get your financial ducks in order.
“I would also hire a private investigator to find out more about his past. Can you call his ex-wife in Denmark? Surely she has some information to share!
Another user was glad she sent her partner to a hotel and told her she should be “furious.”
“I’m so glad you sent him to a hotel.” You should be furious. I would throw out all his stuff, take his keys/change the locks, take all the joint money and spend it, and not talk to him,” she finished.
Another sympathizer said: “Oh my god, this is just crazy!” How will you trust his word again? You must feel like your entire relationship is based on lies.
“I think it will be very difficult to overcome. Sorry you are going through such a terrible and hurtful mess.”