Single Aussie tradie, 27, complains about the ‘disgusting’ and terrifying truth about dating in 2023: ‘This is my message to all men’
One woman was “shocked” and “disgusted” to learn about the traumatic encounters some women have faced while dating.
Dylan Barnett, from Brisbane, recently started dating again and discovered that “every second woman” he met had been abused in some way.
“I had no idea this was happening. This is the failure of most men in the dating world,” the 27-year-old said in a now-viral TikTok. video.
Dylan was so shocked by the vile behavior of other men that he was inspired to create an emotional video to raise awareness and speak out.
“My message (to men) is still the same: understand what is right and wrong and respect boundaries,” he told FEMAIL.
Although Dylan Barnett knew domestic and physical violence was a problem, he had no idea how many women had previously experienced some form of trauma. So he decided to speak out
Dylan said there seems to be a lot of “mistrust, fear of connection and a whole world of hurt feelings” among single people at the moment.
“Some women are afraid to even go on a date at night. I’ve heard some shocking first date stories. Their walls are built to such an extent that you wouldn’t believe it,” he said.
“Your intentions are always questioned, and that’s understandable.
“These days, a cute movie date is no longer in the cards. It’s an assumption that you only want one thing.”
“I had no idea this was happening. This is the failure of most men in the dating world,” the 27-year-old said in a video that has now gone viral on TikTok, adding: “I’m not saying this to suck up to women. I say this as a human and a real man, I don’t condone this damn behavior at all.”
Dylan continued, “You know what really shocked me when I got back into the dating world?
“Every second woman I have met has been physically assaulted before. Every second woman I have met has been sexually assaulted before.
“And every second woman I’ve met has been on a date where she was expected to have intercourse, and that led to aggression towards her.
“I had no idea this was happening. This is the failure of most men in the dating world.
“Some of the things men have said to me and the things men have written are absolutely disgusting. Because I am a man, I am completely shocked by the behavior of some other men.
“I’m not saying this to suck up to women. I say this as a human and a real man, I do not condone this damn behavior at all.
“I think it’s absolutely disgusting.”
“My message (to men) is still the same: understand what is right and wrong and respect boundaries,” he told FEMAIL.
The emotional clip has since been viewed more than 439,000 times and received hundreds of comments.
But while he’s been inundated with support, he’s also been inundated with message requests from people saying he’s “wrong.”
“I actually had to turn off message requests on all platforms and put all my comments on a filter,” he said.
“I have deleted a lot of comments because I feel they may have been directed at my TikTok community.
“I understand that my video put me in a very vulnerable place, even when I was walking around the city on a Saturday night. But this is really what I believe in, and I have to put myself on the line.”
At one point, he even considered deleting the video.
Positive comments from others and his compelling message made it worthwhile.
“67 women have died from domestic violence this year alone, thank you for supporting your mom,” one wrote.
“As a mother of two boys, thank you. Your mom raised you right,” said another.
“Mate, you are a rare treasure. Stay healthy,” added a third.
Someone else said: “This is exactly what we need from our people. Stand up and speak.
“The more people who stand in front while they grow or witness, the better this world will be,” wrote another.
Another added: “We need to protect each other. Well done, you should be proud.
An estimated eight million Australians (41 per cent) have experienced violence (physical and/or sexual) since the age of 15, according to Australian Bureau of Statistics.
From 2021 to 2022, one in four women (23 percent) experienced intimate partner violence, compared to one in 14 men (7.3 percent).